The morality of losing your morals

I find my thoughts returning to it again and again.


This time it’s courtesy of Brett Favre. A man married to a breast cancer survivor. An NFL quarterback. A role model to kids.

Brett Favre. A man who transmitted pictures of his junk to at least one woman who turned down his unwanted advances.

Now another woman has come forward to say that she felt “harassed” by the superstar athlete, too.

I’m going to go way out on a limb here and guess that Mr. Happy Penis may not have been exactly faithful to his wife.

Reflecting on Favre’s situation today it struck me how deeply this sort of thing bothers me. I spent a good part of the last year skewering Tiger Woods for the exact same thing.

It leaves me asking one big question: What ever happened to morals? Did Brett Favre and Tiger Woods ever have any? Or has their public persona been just another role on the stage to hide all the rolls in the hay?

I’ve heard it said that if you toss a frog into boiling water he’ll jump right out. But if you put that same frog in cold water and gradually turn on the heat, it will never occur to him to leave, and he’ll stay in until he dies.

I wonder which is the case with folks like Favre and Woods? Was it is a long series of temptations and personal compromises until they found themselves in too deep? Or is that giving them way too much credit? Were they ever that decent to begin with?

Why make the ultimate promise to another person if you have no intention of keeping it? This isn’t an episode of a wacky TV sitcom. This is real life. These are real people. If you ain’t got the guts to keep your word you shouldn’t be satisfying your immediate selfish wants. Be better than that.

What is it about money and fame that makes some men toss their morality out the window like a hot potato? Or is it really about those things at all? Perhaps it merely comes down to power. There are some who have it and use it and believe that they are somehow special, that the rules don’t apply to them. What a load of crap. There is a word for those who have power and use it to hurt others. That word is “bully.”

Now I’m a pretty open-minded kind of guy. My motto is pretty much, “If it feels good, do it.” I don’t talk about sex much but in my opinion if all parties are acting out of informed consent and having a good time then I’m pretty much all for it. I believe you should get all the pleasure you can out of this short life. What really flips me out, though, is when there isn’t “consent” or there is an element of anything non-consensual.

If a spouse is lying to another then, by definition, there is no “consent.” In fact, if a spouse has outside sexual partners and their mate is not aware, and they continue to engage in sexual activity with that spouse, in my opinion that behavior should be a crime. Perhaps “attempted murder.” Okay, maybe that’s a little strong. Maybe I’d be willing to settle for “reckless endangerment.” The point is they are risking the health of the innocent spouse and for that they MUST be held accountable.

Favre and Woods are pieces of shit. In my opinion they have achieved their respective brass rings. And pooped on them. Was it their incredible will to succeed? God-given gifts? Who knows? I could care less. I say the hell with their ability to throw the skin of pig and/or hit a little ball with a stick.

If you want to stick your winky in every woman who thinks you are The Shit because of your money and fame, then fine. Go for it. Stay single and live the life you want. What you must not do, however, is pretend to be something else and lie to another human being while you secretly pursue the exact opposite. That just makes you scum.

And yet some people still pay money to watch these men practice their so-called “talents.” Not me. Count me out. I don’t care what these immoral cheaters do. I guess I’m just not that sporting.

10 responses

  1. Wow, I just fell in love with you! That was way cool to hear from a guy! And I’m not so sure why I’m shocked to hear a man be pissed about these boys behavior. Of course, good men would be upset. Thank you for reminding me.

    I think though, to put things in perspective, it’s not men with money — there are men with fame and money who don’t mess around and are honorable. We never hear about them because…there’s nothing to hear about. So, (and I can’t believe I’m going to say this), it’s not all men — not even all men with money and fame. Just some dumb-ass boys.

    Aaaaahhhh…so good to know there are still many beautiful good men out there!

    Thank you! XXOO!



    1. I think a scientific study is needed to determine if there is a correlation. They say that power corrupts. Perhaps dude with fame and money begin to feel as if they are above such things?


  2. Amen!
    I think it is a power-trip. They think they are invincable and can get away with anything. They are surrounded every day by people who do nothing but cater to their every whim. That has to mess with one’s psyche after a while. Does that let them off the hook? Hell no! They are scum. If they had any respect for their wives whatsoever, they would have divorced them BEFORE they cheated.


    1. Power seems like a factor behind so many things. Why does it have to be that way?


  3. People with a sense of “entitlement”, men AND women, think that they should be allowed to have or do whatever they want.

    And I agree that with your definition of “bully”. Matter of fact, I agree with pretty much everything you said here!

    So, DITTO.


    1. Woot!

      And I think you just gave me the idea for a future post. 🙂


  4. While I knew who Tiger was, I never knew who this other dude was, and I don’t really care. I think the media obsession with the scandalous activities of the celebrity morons in our society is disgusting. The best way I know to boycott that behavior is by not participating in it.

    Bottom line, if they wanted to screw around, then why did they get married? They should have just stayed single.


    1. You never heard of Brett Favre? That’s hardcore! 🙂 He’s the quarterback of an NFL football team, therefore society forgives almost everything he does. Throwing a football around is IMPORTANT!

      I think for a lot of people it might be a “best of intentions” kind of thing. They want something so they think of it in the best possible light. Then when the chips hit the fan “what I want” suddenly takes precedence. No moral fortitude.


  5. As someone who’s been cheated on, I agree with every thing you’ve posted here. People who don’t want to commit to the one they married, should at least have the decency to get a divorce before they go out screwing someone else.

    Nice to hear a guy talking about morality and fidelity. Usually it’s guys we hear about when it comes to immorality and infidelity. You’re wife’s a lucky lady.


    1. Thanks! The more I thought about it the more it pissed me off.

      I really hope she’s lucky, but something tells me it’s the other way around. 🙂


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